“Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose.”
“Sometimes being real means allowing pain or accepting a painful truth. Yet something in us aligns with an inner ground of authenticity when we are real. We love it because of its inherent rightness in our soul, the sense of “Aha, here I am and there is nothing to do but be.”
“When we blend courage and compassion, assertiveness and gentleness, our essential strength and kindness support us in being where we are.”
“One cannot seek happiness, for it is the result of realizing the Truth. The personality, which has security and pleasure as its aims, cannot be happy. Pursuing pleasure or safety will entail covering up any unpleasant or frightening truths. This automatically closes Joy. For Joy is the radiance of the heart when Truth is appreciated.”
“Only when compassion is present will people allow themselves to see the truth.”
Quotes by A.H. Almaas
Artwork by Keith Haring
What if there wasn’t a video? What if it wasn’t made public?
The Twitter tweet below was my public reply to John Fugelsang’s tweet. And below that is a quote I pulled from Glennon Doyle’s recent post on Instagram. After that, it’s me talking again.
He was 13 years old.
His hands we up when the police shot and killed him.
To cover up the murder, the prosecutor lied saying Adam had a gun (now recanted).
And the US has reported at least 45 mass shootings in the last month.
In all my years of working with recovering people and families, I have never witnessed denial like American denial.
I have never seen such a collective willingness to succumb to deeper and more shameful rock bottoms- to sit by and watch so many die.
Families are only as sick as what they will not face.
We are a sick family, America.
Our family has become unmanageable. We must take a moral inventory and face our open family secret: that this nation – founded upon “liberty and justice for all” was built while murdering, enslaving, raping and subjugating millions. That this nation is still killing its Black and brown citizens with impunity, and prioritizing gun manufacturers’ profits over human lives.
Then maybe we’ll gather the entire family at the table – the women and the gay and the Black and brown folks and the babies memorizing lockdown drills, and those in power – so that we can begin the long, hard work of making amends.
There will never be peace without a full and truthful reckoning. There will never be a revolution in the nation until there is full revelation in this nation. We will never become a healthy family until the truth is told, justice is served, amends are made, reparations are paid.
Quote by Glennon Doyle
There are so many Americans that refuse to see what is happening (and has been happening for generations).
There are also many Americans that are coming together, demanding change, and working to raise awareness.
Please be the latter. Please do what you can to raise your awareness and the awareness of those around you.
Of course, I am with you. Doing the same in whatever ways I can.
Things won’t be better, unless we do better.
Things won’t be different, unless we are different.
It’s an ongoing process.
The world will never be perfect, but it can be better.
But it won’t improve, unless we are committed to making a meaningful difference in the lives of others.
“Death is always on the way, but the fact that you don’t know when it will arrive seems to take away from the finiteness of life. It’s that terrible precision that we hate so much. But because we don’t know, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.”
Quote by Paul Bowles
Next full moon is on April 26, 2021.
It will be a Super Pink Moon.
Don’t miss it.
I was happy to see that the Museum of Modern Art has ongoing series with chef Mina Stone. Several episodes are posted below, but have fun exploring the whole series on MoMA’s website. And save a link to that page. I believe they will continue to post new episodes.
Caledonia Curry aka SWOON
Maia Ruth Lee
What if you knew you’d be the last
to touch someone?
If you were taking tickets, for example,
at the theater, tearing them,
giving back the ragged stubs,
you might take care to touch that palm,
brush your fingertips
along the life line’s crease.
When a man pulls his wheeled suitcase
too slowly through the airport, when
the car in front of me doesn’t signal,
when the clerk at the pharmacy
won’t say Thank you, I don’t remember
they’re going to die.
A friend told me she’d been with her aunt.
They’d just had lunch and the waiter,
a young gay man with plum black eyes,
joked as he served the coffee, kissed
her aunt’s powdered cheek when they left.
Then they walked half a block and her aunt
dropped dead on the sidewalk.
How close does the dragon’s spume
have to come? How wide does the crack
in heaven have to split?
What would people look like
if we could see them as they are,
soaked in honey, stung and swollen,
reckless, pinned against time?
The poem I shared is titled, If You Knew.
It was written by Ellen Bass. From her book, The Human Line.
I love the work of Masako Miki. (I’m also tickled pink that she lives somewhat near me! How cool is that?) Her work communicates the importance of adaptation and community. A sense of fluidity through culture and connection.
I’m a big fan of the podcast Creative Pep Talk. I thought this week’s episode was great. It’s called “This 4 Step Process for Finding Your Focus Unlocks Super Potent Motivation”. Kind of a long title, I know! haha. The host of the show is entertainingly eccentric. It’s the perfect podcast for artsy people pursuing a career in the arts. But I would imagine that anyone could benefit from a creative perspective and great advice.