Nisargadatta Maharaj: The Road is the Goal


“You will receive everything you need when you stop asking for what you do not need.”

“Once you realize that the road is the goal and that you are always on the road, not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom, life ceases to be a task and becomes natural and simple, in itself an ecstasy.”

“A quiet mind is all you need.”

“You have put so much energy into building a prison for yourself. Now spend as much on demolishing it. In fact, demolition is easy, for the false dissolves when it is discovered.”

“The mind creates the abyss, the heart crosses it.”

“I find that somehow, by shifting the focus of attention, I become the very
thing I look at, and experience the kind of consciousness it has; I become
the inner witness of the thing. I call this capacity of entering other
focal points of consciousness, love; you may give it any name you like.
Love says “I am everything”. Wisdom says “I am nothing”. Between the two,
my life flows. Since at any point of time and space I can be both the
subject and the object of experience, I express it by saying that I am
both, and neither, and beyond both.”

All quotes by Nisargadatta Maharaj

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David Foster Wallace: When You Realize


“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”

“Almost nothing important that ever happens to you happens because you engineer it.”

“It took years after I’d graduated from Amherst to realize that people were actually far more complicated and interesting than books, that almost everyone else suffered the same secret fears and inadequacies as I, and that feeling alone and inferior was actually the great valent bond between us all. I wish I’d been smart enough to understand that when I was an adolescent.”

“I am not what you see and hear.”

“You can be shaped, or you can be broken. There is not much in between. Try to learn. Be coachable. Try to learn from everybody, especially those who fail. This is hard. … How promising you are as a Student of the Game is a function of what you can pay attention to without running away.”

“The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling.”

“Try to learn to let what is unfair teach you.”

All quotes by David Foster Wallace


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Wishing you your most fabulous year yet! May it be filled with all you can imagine and more. Sending you so much love, happiness and cheer.

Let’s do this. 2017 begins. We are ready!


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Marina Abramović: Hardcore Journey


I’m having a Marina Abramović moment (or string of moments). I listened to her memoir, Walk Through Walls. After that I watched her Brazilian documentary, The Space In Between (available on Vimeo). And soon I’ll re-watch her other documentary (that I saw some years ago), The Artist Is Present.

Embedded are two trailers for you. If you decide to watch her films, don’t start with the Brazilian documentary! Start with her older works, so you can see her life/work in context.

The Artist Is Present:

The Space In Between:


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Rumi: Lovers, Madness & Poetry


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”

“Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground. Be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are.”

“Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.”

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.”

“Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious. I have tried prudent planning long enough. From now on I’ll be mad.”

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

“Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself.”

“You think because you understand ‘one’ you must also understand ‘two’, because one and one make two. But you must also understand ‘and’.”

“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”

“There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.”

All quotes by Rumi


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Life is a Celebration (Thank you, Terry!)


I was 21 years old when I made New York City my home. I thought I was only there for a season or two, but I ended up staying for nearly 2 decades. With each passing year, my former life in California faded away. Out of necessity and a series of synchronistic events, I created a tight-knit family made up of close friends. They supported my wacky art phases, celebrated my accomplishments, and helped me when I was down. They were there for me during the whole journey, no matter what the current juncture or unorthodox path was.

As I look back, it’s hard to believe some of the things that happened. Some really amazing adventures! Some I would be extremely lucky to re-live and others I nauseously cringe just thinking about. There was always something happening, always something to explore, always a new opportunity for growth. No doubt about it, my formative years happened in NYC. Whatever I missed as a youth (and it was a lot!), I had to quickly learn as an adult. I truly am what I am (as a mind/personality/character) because of the corporealizing experiences I had and powerful friendships I participated in during that time.

Out of those friendships, there is like a family-tree hierarchy type order. A better way to describe it is, like a triangle with a select few at the peak. These are the friends that really went to bat for me (I mean really-really, like “are you serious?!” really). The gnarly Mount Everest of friendship! It’s an amazing few that befriended me beyond my wildest dreams — and still do. I’m continuously amazed at the level of loving dedication and outstanding altruism.

I would like to honor one of those friends today. December 4th is the birthday of a very special ‘triangle peak’ friend. My forever soul-friend, Terry. I literally sit here speechless, taking a deep breath, exhaling, unable to express my love for him as a human being. No formation of words would describe or match what I have in my heart. I can only say I feel indebted to him, and I’ve learned so much from him.

…Oh. Wait. I spoke too soon, more words are coming…

I remember telling him that I felt my life was my art, that there wasn’t a need to make tangible art anymore, because my life is my most risky and creative expression. To me, when I think of that statement, it pales next to what I think Terry’s life is. I’m not sure if he would consider it art, but I know for sure he would consider it a celebration. Terry is a walking party! :) He loves people. He loves play. He lives for connection and contribution. He has taught me so much in that regard. You really have to meet him in order to fully grasp what I am trying to express. I’ve seen Terry connect to people in a way that is mind blowing. I don’t mean people that he’s familiar with, I mean absolute strangers. His unwavering generosity and child-like openness is unparalleled to anything I’ve ever seen. I literally watch him interact with people and I stand there in awe.

My life has been interesting, I’ve met some interesting people and lived through some interesting moments. But there are certain people or interactions that feel cosmic or predestined. That’s how I feel about my relationship to Terry. Like some Great Wizard in the sky orchestrated our friendship and placed everything just so. Like our paths were meant to cross and we were meant to influence each other. We were meant to help each other through the decades. I can’t imagine my life without Terry. I also can’t imagine the world without Terry. It would be like a joyous moment without a smile, or a group cheer without a sound. It simply wouldn’t be as fun.


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Rob Bell: Love, Freedom & Surrender


“Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two—love and controlling power over the other person—are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.”

“Freedom is not having everything we crave, it’s being able to go without the things we crave and being OK with it. ”

“Far too often, we don’t start because we can’t get our minds around the entire thing. We don’t take the first step because we can’t figure out the seventeenth step. But you don’t have to know the seventeenth step. You only have to know the first step. Because the first number is always 1. Start with 1.”

“Because with every action, comment, conversation, we have the choice to invite Heaven or Hell to Earth.”

“It’s all—let’s use a very specific word here—miraculous. You, me, love, quarks, sex, chocolate, the speed of light—it’s all miraculous, and it always has been.”

“Why blame the dark for being dark? It is far more helpful to ask why the light isn’t as bright as it could be.”

All quotes by Rob Bell

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