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I Am Okay

i am okay

As many of you know, more than 200,000 acres of land has burned in Northern California. While standing on my porch (in the Napa Valley), I could see blazing fires in the hills. I actually didn’t know there was a fire happening until I was woken up by a knock at the door.

At 12am midnight I packed a bag and grabbed my furry sidekick. Most of the bag was her stuff; dog food, water, sweater, carry-bag (she’s little and old), leash, harness, etc.. The only things I could think to take for myself were my wallet, jacket, laptop and cell phone — which did not work in my area.

I slept in a van that first night, and then spent the next 7 days in the east bay, checking on my home periodically.

Thank goodness I am totally fine, my sidekick is fine too. And I’m pretty certain that our home will not be part of the fires. I think we’ll only have to deal with smoke issues. We plan on returning home on Monday.

I’m so thankful for all the text messages, calls and emails I received. Thank you. It really made me feel loved. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Before I sign off with much love & gratitude, I’ll just say this, when emergencies happen, it really becomes clear what is important to you.

If you got a knock at the door at midnight, and had to flee your home, what would you bring? Who would you call first? What do you care about most? What is key to your well-being and survival?

When I went to bed that night, I never thought that I would have to answer those questions. And now that those questions have been answered, I have more/different questions.

This week I plan on doing a lot of reflection. I think this disaster, along with all of the other disasters globally, is just the beginning. Our world is changing swiftly. The weather is different, how we communicate is different, the way we work and transport/travel is different.

Things are evolving at a rapid pace, whether we like it our not. And if we don’t adapt and rethink how we live, as well as what we want, it’s going to be an up hill battle.

I want to redesign my life in a way that suits these global changes.

For the time being, I’m just keeping my mind and heart open, staying aware of all possibilities — while I begin to make necessary changes little by little.

I don’t have any answers for myself at the moment, I only have questions.

Quotes like the ones below make me feel less alone and more on track. Thank goodness for like minds and their writings. It’s always been a source of comfort for me.

“Your preparation for the real world is not in the answers you’ve learned, but in the questions you’ve learned how to ask yourself.” ― B. Watterson

“So much of life isn’t about having the right answer; it’s about knowing the right question.” ― D. Hewitt

“Perhaps we shouldn’t try to answer the questions now – let’s just note them down. …the power in a question is not in the answer, it’s in the way the imagination gets busy when the question is at work.” ― J. Winspear


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Viktor Frankl: The Final Wisdom

viktor frankl quotes

“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.”

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.”

“A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life, I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth – that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire.”

“Even when it is not fully attained, we become better for striving for a higher goal.”

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

“When a person can’t find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.”

All quotes by Viktor Frankl


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If you had 3 more…

3 more

This week my sister emailed me a link to a Design Sponge article. It was an interview with a fashion designer. The interviewer asked the designer what they would do if they had 3 more hours in each day (27 hours, instead of the usual 24 hours). I thought it was a great question. It stumped me, I immediately asked myself what I would do with 3 additional hours everyday. I was honest, I was completely straight with myself. I said that I would probably blow it off, and lump it in with the rest of my day. The extra time would more than likely go unnoticed. I was surprised by my answer. It made me think that I was taking all of the hours I have each day for granted, spending them indulgently, allowing them to fly by unnoticed.

The question from the article really made me think, and as a result, two more questions came to mind:

1. What if I had 3 more friends?
(What kind of friends would I like them to be? What kind of relationship would I like to have with them? How would I like us to benefit each other?)

2. What if I had 3 more chances?
(What if I had the chance to improve upon something that I’ve neglected, written-off or failed at? In what ways would I reignite it and make it the way I know it has the potential to be?)

I feel like the two questions I came up with helps me to better answer the question from the fashion/design article. The reason I was not eagerly jumping at the chance to appreciate and wisely use the 3 additional hours — and gave my honest, yet unenthusiastic and unempowered answer, was because… I am not truly passionate about what I am currently doing and how I spend each day. If I was, I would grab the 3 extra hours and run with them, savoring and making the most of each minute, wildly & passionately enjoying all 3 hours — clearly seeing them as a gifted opportunity — as I should see all 24 hours of each day, that I am currently blessed with.

What if you had 3 more hours, 3 more friends, and 3 more chances? How would you spend the time? What would you want out of them? In what way would your life change?

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