Below is an email I sent to a friend back in September. Sometimes I can be a bit over-the-top when I discuss my point of view. After time passes, I reread or hear again what I’ve said and I laugh to myself. I can tell that I’m being extreme. But after reading this email again, I still feel the same way.
Date: Sep 24, 2009
This week I was reminded about what being ‘in love’ means. I heard one interesting view of being in-love (in-love with a romantic partner), that I agreed with. They mentioned a few things about people who think they are in-love, but are in romantic relationships as a means to an end. There is something that they want from the other person, there is a need to be filled. I have additional thoughts about it, but I agree with what they said.
Hearing their point of view brought me back to my own knowing, about love in general. I am clear that the romantic love we feel we need is not the one we think it is. It is the love for Self — unconditional love for Self that frees us, completes us and gives us everlasting bliss. When we truly love ourselves (and see its connection to the spirit that breathes/animates it), we don’t need union because we are whole. We don’t need a partner to feel loved — we are love. Everything and everyone is seen as love as well. Nothing is separate from us because we are whole and all encompassing. We will never fall out of love, we will never have fears about losing love (or those we love), we will just be in who we know we are; love. It’s so easy for me at times to get swept up in movies, the news, other people’s concepts, imagery, etc.. But when all that gets silent, when I get silent, I know what’s real.
All suffering I believe comes from this disconnect with the Self. It’s a disconnect with Love. I know that when I’m bugged about my career, hating how a part of my body looks, wanting things (or people) to be different — it’s because I can’t see me. I’ve lost sight. I don’t see who I am.
When I lose sight of who I am, it’s always best for me to stop. Stop myself in my tracks and ask, “Why are you not being yourself? Why are you following others? Why are you worried about what they think? Why are you over thinking instead of being? I remind myself to be simple. “Be yourself. Love it all. Love yourself.” When I do, I know nothing can cause me harm. I am it all. The only one that can cause me harm is myself. The only one who can not love me is me.
[The inspiring photo is by Diana Rikasari]